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boy jail cell

Up to April 1, 1971 there  was no facility to accommodate children in Pottawatomie, Lincoln, Seminole and Okfuskee Counties who were in distress either by reason of misfortune or their own acting out. Many were housed in a cell exactly like the one to the right. It was made for adult offenders. It was barred, locked and stark  read more...

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6/% of 4,743 children in grades 1 to 8 admitted bullying others"more than once or twice" in the past six weeks.
Boys report more bullying than girls, but the discrepancy between boys' and girls' rates of bullying is not as great in playground observations
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BullyingSafe Schools | Self Mutilitation  | Human Trafficking | Did you know?

What is Relational Aggression?

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Safe Schools

Place school Safety on the education agenda. Convince your school board, superintendent and principals that quality education requires safe, disciplined and peaceful schools. Stress the basic concept that school safety is a community concern requiring a community response. School administrators should facilitate and coordinate community efforts which promote safe schools.
Make time for any parent who wants to meet. Treat visiting parents as colleagues in the business of educating children. Always listen before talking parents often just need to be heard. Try to conclude sessions with a commitment of support from parents.
Help establish a policy in which parents become financially liable for damage done by their children. Parents and children need to be made aware of the serious consequences for criminal actions. (This already is state law in many parts of the country.)
Internet citation: National School Safety Center

Self Mutilitation

It is estimated that one in every 100 individuals in the United States, or more than 2.5 million people, are self-mutilators. Girls are four times more likely to engage in self-harm than boys, with girls between the ages of 16 and 25 at highest risk, although many girls begin cutting in middle school (ages 12 or 13). At risk individuals also include those who have underlying psychiatric disorders. Up to half of individuals who are self-mutilators were sexually abused as children.
Internet citation: Cutter Demographics
Biological Explanations: Stereotypical self-mutilation has been seen in the Lesch-Nyhan, deLange, and Tourette's syndrome which has spurred interest in a biological model.

Biological Model 1: Recent evidence suggests the role of the neurotransmitter dopamine in self-mutilation.

Biological Model 2: In addition to dopamine, endogenous opioids have also been linked to self-mutilation. The biological reinforcement theory suggests that the pain from self-mutilation may cause the production of endorphins (endogenous opioids) that reduce dysphoria. A cycle is formed in which the habitual self-mutilator will hurt themselves in order to feel better.

Biological Model 3: A third biological explanation suggests that individuals may mutilate themselves in order to supply sensory stimulation.

Internet citation: Types of Motivation
The content of this article may be very triggering if you engage in self mutilation; please consider this carefully before reading on. Self mutilation is very difficult to understand from the prospective of people who have never experienced the behavior themselves. For family members or friends of someone who self mutilates, it is terrifying, confusing, and frustrating.

Internet citation: What is Self Mutilation and Why Does It Happen?

Did you know?

In 2000, the juvenile male arrest rate for Violent Crime Index Offenses was 4.2 times the rate for females. Internet citation: OJJDP

Human Trafficking

Identifying a Victim

The following signs will assist you in identifying someone who is a possible victim of Human Trafficking. Remember it is always better to be safe than sorry if you suspect someone is a victim of Human Trafficking.

Domestic US Victims

Few or no personal possessions

Lack of knowledge of the community or area and will have a cover story such as here visiting a cousin or friend

Fearful demeanor, anxious, depressed, tense, nervous or non compliant

Signs of physical abuse or malnourishment

Living on the street or couch-surfing with friends

Involved in the commercial sex industry: stripping, escort, prostitution, pornography

All underage sex workers - under the age of 18

Live with their "boyfriend"

Runaway from home or made to leave home as a minor

Not in control of their own money, give all money to their "boyfriend"

Cannot answer simple questions like where they shop for clothes or what recent movie they saw at the theater

Past sexual abuse as child causing a "damaged goods" self attitude

Undervalued attitude about sex and defensive survivor attitude proclaiming that they do not need help

Foreign Nationals:

Few or no personal possessions

Lack of knowledge of the community or area

Not in control of their own ID or passport (may have fake ID)

Restricted or controlled communication, not allowed to speak for themselves, third party may insist on answering for them, may not speak English

Fearful demeanor: anxious, depressed, tense, nervous or non compliant

Signs of physical abuse or malnourishment

Unpaid or paid very little not in control of their own money

Owe debt to boss or employer for bringing them to the US

May live at the place they work or in a compound type situation with many others

Probably do not have a cell phone

Usually not alone or out of view of their trafficker or transporter

Internet citation: Identifying Victims


Oklahoma Fact!

Oklahoma means "red man" in the Choctaw language.





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