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Up to April 1, 1971 there  was no facility to accommodate children in Pottawatomie, Lincoln, Seminole and Okfuskee Counties who were in distress either by reason of misfortune or their own acting out. Many were housed in a cell exactly like the one to the right. It was made for adult offenders. It was barred, locked and stark  read more...

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Some advice for dealing with friends and emotions:
Open up. Tell your friends directly when you're upset with them
Try not to talk about them behind their backs.
Don't fight using IM or e-mail
Don't be scared. Everyone is afraid of conflict at some level, but fights can be a lot worse and last a lot longer when they're not dealt with directly.
Go outside. When you need to confide in someone about problems with a friend, make sure you're talking to someone outside your clique.

Try to get involved in activities outside your group, too.
Seek help - Talk to someone about it. You might think the issue is too petty to bring to an adult, but most times, it isn't.

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BullyingSafe Schools | Self Mutilitation  | Human Trafficking | Did you know?

What is Relational Aggression?

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Safe Schools

Encourage teachers to contact parents regularly to inform them about the good things students are doing. Develop a system to enable teachers to call or write parents routinely and conveniently. Provide space and time for teachers to meet regularly with parents at school and recommend that teachers initiate these informal meetings as frequently as possible. Monitor the participation.
Internet citation: National School Safety Center

Self Mutilitation

It is estimated that one in every 100 individuals in the United States, or more than 2.5 million people, are self-mutilators. Girls are four times more likely to engage in self-harm than boys, with girls between the ages of 16 and 25 at highest risk, although many girls begin cutting in middle school (ages 12 or 13). At risk individuals also include those who have underlying psychiatric disorders. Up to half of individuals who are self-mutilators were sexually abused as children.
Internet citation: Cutter Demographics
Biological Explanations: Stereotypical self-mutilation has been seen in the Lesch-Nyhan, deLange, and Tourette's syndrome which has spurred interest in a biological model.

Biological Model 1: Recent evidence suggests the role of the neurotransmitter dopamine in self-mutilation.

Biological Model 2: In addition to dopamine, endogenous opioids have also been linked to self-mutilation. The biological reinforcement theory suggests that the pain from self-mutilation may cause the production of endorphins (endogenous opioids) that reduce dysphoria. A cycle is formed in which the habitual self-mutilator will hurt themselves in order to feel better.

Biological Model 3: A third biological explanation suggests that individuals may mutilate themselves in order to supply sensory stimulation.

Internet citation: Types of Motivation
The content of this article may be very triggering if you engage in self mutilation; please consider this carefully before reading on. Self mutilation is very difficult to understand from the prospective of people who have never experienced the behavior themselves. For family members or friends of someone who self mutilates, it is terrifying, confusing, and frustrating.

Internet citation: What is Self Mutilation and Why Does It Happen?

Did you know?

In contrast to aggravated assault arrest rates, murder rates increased only among juveniles and adults younger than age 25 between 1980 and 1994. During this period, arrest rates for youth ages 15-17 increased an average of 135% and 49% for adults ages 18-24. Murder rates declined 17% for adults ages 25-29, 35% for those ages 30-34, and 41% for those ages 35-39.

Internet citation: OJJDP

Human Trafficking

The 2011 Trafficking in Persons Report on 184 nations is the most comprehensive worldwide report on the efforts of governments to combat severe forms of trafficking in persons. Its findings will raise global awareness, highlight the progress the international community has made thus far, and identify gaps in action. The annual Trafficking in Persons Report serves as the primary diplomatic tool through which the U.S. Government encourages partnership and increased determination in the fight against forced labor, sexual exploitation, and modern-day slavery.

Internet citation: U.S.Department of State Releases 11th Annual Trafficking in Persons Report Released July 05, 2011.


Oklahoma Fact!

The Oklahoma State Flag, adopted by the State Legislature in 1925, is Oklahoma's 14th flag. The Flag has a sky blue field with an Indian war shield of tan buckskin showing small crosses on the face. The crosses are an Indian design for stars. The Flag has seven eagle feathers hanging from the edge of the shield. A calumet or Indian peace pipe with a pipestone bowl and tassel at the end of the pipe stem lies on top of shield. Above the Indian peace pipe is an olive branch, the white man's emblem of peace. Underneath the shield in white letters is the word "Oklahoma."





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